Take Some Pressure Off A Little

We socialize and from our little or deep interactions we get different views on parenting. We read from the daily newspapers, monthly magazines and videos. From that, we get excited to go try, not knowing that there is no one perfect way of parenting or instilling discipline into our kids.
"THERE IS NO ONE PERFECT WAY OF PARENTING OR INSTILLING DISCIPLINE INTO OUR KIDS."
“How your kids behaves reflects you as a parent?” That should scare and put any parent on the edge. Most parents, me included get all freaked out because we want to be great parents. We want to be seen as good parents through our kids. We want our kids to portray our good parenting. That is why we try all we can to bring up better children. Who would willingly want the opposite?
"HOW YOUR KIDS BEHAVES REFLECTS YOU AS A PARENT?"
I absolutely agree that how the child is raised has an impact on his/her behavior and character when he grows up. That is why most parents try to follow the advice given on the internet, writings or from their fellow parents. They all want to have that little boy or girl, (between ages three and five or six) who goes with them to Nakumatt, Tuskys, Uchumi, Woolmatt or Ukwala and asks gently “Dad/Mom, can I have that bicycle?” and when told no, he/she calmly understands and nods. Not because of fear that he will be punished, but because he understands. I would really, really want this for my little ones because it is a fight to get past toys’ section. They are at the age where their emotions are bigger than their bodies, and at times, they just explode.  
“THEIR EMOTIONS ARE BIGGER THAN THEIR BODIES, AND AT TIMES, THEY JUST EXPLODE.”
As a parent I need to remind myself every day that our kids are independent people. She might have your beautiful smile, he might have your nose, she might have your lovely hands and nails, he might have your teeth, but truth of the matter is that they don’t share our body and soul. Okay, for those still nursing, you can say you are sharing part of your body, but you get my point? Yes there is a strong connection of our bond and love, but they are their own person, with their own destiny and future. To live their lives, they will learn from their own mistakes, hurts and lessons learnt. We should be there to guide our younger versions and try our level best to help them avoid the slip-ups. But seriously, take the pressure off a little.
“THEY ARE THEIR OWN PERSON, WITH THEIR OWN DESTINY AND FUTURE.”
We love our kids and we will do everything and anything we can to take care of them, but we need to know that we might blow it a few times. Maybe we will be busy watching TV or cooking and fail to see them tripping on a wet floor. Maybe we won’t be paying attention to the important story of how he/she was at school that day. Maybe they will witness a burst of temper. But you know what? They will forgive us.
There is no perfect parent or perfect child. We are all humans and we are bound to make mistakes. Imperfect people make mistakes. We just need to learn and do better next time. That should be the lesson for us as parents and to our kids.
“IMPERFECT PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES. WE JUST NEED TO LEARN AND DO BETTER NEXT TIME.”
Now if you will excuse me, I hear Lyn crying out for help….to be continued


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4 comments:

  1. True..nobody is perfect but at the end of the day am sure you do your best to be a good parent..
    Lovely post..xx

    www.lindasworldofstyle.com

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    1. Ooh Linda, yea I do try. And thanks for reading

      XX

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  2. This is some Amazing work you putting out here #theirsmallworld

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    1. Rashid, Yes am trying. Thanks for saving some time

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